MTV Nominees.

The MTV Video Music Award nominees came out today.  I am not that excited.  I remember a time when I would get all amped up about the MTV Awards because it was so different from all the other awards.  Now I don't even think MTV has the right to give out awards for videos because they just don't play music videos anymore.  In fact, MTV should give out awards for the best fights (Teen Mom), the best statutory rapes (16 and Pregnant), and the best crotches getting hit (Ridiculousness).  I say You Tube start making an awards ceremony because in all fairness, they're the only ones showing videos nowadays.

But anyways, here are the nominees.


Video of the Year
Drake f/ Rihanna - Take Care
Gotye - Somebody That I Used to Know
Katy Perry - Wide Awake
M.I.A. - Bad Girls
Rihanna - We Found Love



Best Female Video
Beyoncé - Love on Top
Katy Perry - Part of Me
Nicki Minaj - Starships
Rihanna - We Found Love
Selena Gomez & The Scene - Love You Like a Love Song

 Best Male Video

Chris Brown - Turn Up the Music
Drake f/ Rihanna - Take Care
Frank Ocean - Swim Good
Justin Bieber - Boyfriend
Usher - Climax




Best Hip-Hop Video
Childish Gambino - Heartbeat
Drake f/ Lil Wayne - HYFR
Kanye West f/ Pusha T, Big Sean, and 2 Chainz - Mercy
Nicki Minaj f/ 2 Chainz - Beez in the Trap
The Throne - Paris

So there you go.  The top songs played on the radio are also nominated for the best videos.  It's all corporations now.  It's the only way they're going to grab on to your money for another 5-10 years before they become completely obsolete.  So in the meantime, keep listening to the radio, watch your non-video tv and pay for the music that is just not as good as it once was.  The playing field will be leveled and all of these artists will actually have to work a little harder to take the money out of our pockets.  And I do exclude Kanye West because there is really very little he can do to make me boycott him (PS: he's doing it right now).


Here are the videos for video of the year.  Now you tell me if there are better videos or not.

Rihanna- We found Love (Yes, let's glorify an abusive relationship because it is just as great as how you're making it out to be Rihanna).


Gotye- Somebody That I Used To Know (One of the best videos and songs of the year.  Thank Buddha I don't know him anymore)


Katy Perry - Wide Awake ( I don't like Katy Perry and her intro is horrible.)


M.I.A. - Bad Girls (Always interesting, always different.  But she's a little chunky, so I can't take her too seriously).


Drake ft/Rihanna - Take Care (Like the song, hate the video and don't really like the artists performing it).


Now looking at all of these videos, there's a lot of color, a lot of heartbreak, and a lot of bad stuff. This is what MTV glorifies. This is the contribution they give to the world. Thank you MTV.

Yes You Can.

Reading an article on "The Atlantic" on "Why Women Still Can't Have it All," ( http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/07/why-women-still-can-8217-t-have-it-all/9020/# ) I was baffled.  Our women ancestors have fought hard for equality and we have come to a point in our lives where given the same circumstances between a man and a woman: they are equal.  Yet I still read articles about women complaining that they don't make enough money, or they don't have enough time in the day to take care of their children.  And my favorite is the complaint of losing their liberties because their children are taking it away from them.

We have been told time and time again that children are the one thing that will make us allhappy.  but is that really the case?  There are many people who love children and don't complain about it, like my mother.  But then there are those women who have children, for whatever reason, and still complain that they want their time, the dreams, their freedom.  But when someone chooses to have children, there is an inherent responsibility that comes with it.  You are no longer the most important in your life.  Your child becomes the most important person in your life.  So why complain?

This lady, Annie-Marie Slaughter describes her successes in the work place, yet has lost control of her 14-year-old son.  She describes on one hand how she had a dream job working for the department of state, but her son was falling into a pattern of mischief at his middle school.  She made the choice to leaver her post and take care of her son leaving her to prompt the question of women having it all.

Tom Leykis made it plain and simple, "If you want to have it all, then don't have kids."

I have a similar take on it, but I will elaborate to better understand my opinion in this matter.  Having children again means that your freedom comes second to the responsibility.  It goes both ways for men and women.  In that sense, we are all equal.  Both men and women have the choice to have children or to have a career.  Just because the woman carries the baby in their body does not take away from the fact that a man can also make the choice to have a kid.  Given those circumstances, I believe that both men and women have to choose whether they want the career or the child.  And if you choose to have both, there are consequences that both parties must face because a child is the biggest responsibility that an adult can take.

I say stop making it an issue about sex, because that's caveman talk.  It's an issue simply of what you want most and what you are willing to sacrifice.  Women tend to bitch and complain about having too much work and not enough time with the kids.  Men on the other hand understand the consequences and take their own risk.  Maybe it's time us women own up to our choices and stop complaining about them.  In the end, you birth the baby, so maybe you should let someone else who has the time handle the big jobs.

I won't have kids because I want to be accessible to my employer whenever needed.  I choose not to have kids because I don't want to end up picking between my job and my kids.  If I have kids and I am forced to choose them over my dreams, I will hate my choice to have them, which is not fair to them.

To Anne-Marie: you made your bed, now lay in it.  If you wanted to be a successful individual, then maybe you should of thought about having kids a little more carefully as there is a risk with every choice we make in this world.

To Tom Leykis: thank you for the great article.  You're on point and women make it way too easy for you to pick on them.  Fucking bitches.

Opinions.

 There is nothing wrong with an opinion.  Everyone has them.  It's our right as Americans to have opinions.  About everything.  But when does an opinion become more than just that?  When does it become an actual criticism? Or even an actual insult?

I have two stories to share.  One in national news, and a personal one that happened to me today.

The first one is a headline that has been plaguing the news for many reasons.  Fast-food chain CEO of Chik-fil-a recently came out against same-sex marriage.  He was asked about his donations to certain groups as that focus on "maintaining the sanctity of marriage," to which his response was, "guilty as charged."  This little public declaration has gotten people to talk about the issue of same-sex marriage in this country.  Now everyone is entitled to their own opinions.  But keeping them to yourself is one thing and blasting them to the world is another.  When you keep your opinions to yourself, you don't get caught in a tangled web of other opinions judging your declaration.  But when you declare a bold statement, your expectation is to have a number of people come at you from all angles with all their bullshit opinions that really don't mean anything.  I don't care for marriage.  But I do believe in equality, and if someone wants to ruin their life by getting married, then everyone has the right to ruin their lives by getting married, to any human they see fit.  But my point is this.  Had this CEO just shut the fuck up, then he probably would not be in this situation.  Now he's being banned in a number of different cities, people are boycotting their food, and others are getting fatter in support of this hate-filled food chain.

On the other hand,  today I went to lunch with a few family members. I have kept my law school acceptance to myself becasue my family iw known to criticize to the point of hating on other people's successes.  So today my mother happened to mention that she was buying me a laptop for my birthday because I was getting ready to go back to school.  My aunt then proceeded to probe me on my decision.  She asked where I was going, I told her to a school about three hours from my hometown.  Then she proceeded to say that they were going to charge me a grip load, that would I be able to do it, and what am I thinking going off to school.  Now listening to this, I was thinking, don't say anything.  But the truth is this:  her family is also getting themselves in to situations that are highly risky.  Her daughter is in the process of purchasing a vehicle she may not be able to afford, and her son just bought a house with a wife that's 50% committed to the relationship, from what I have seen and heard.  And here she comes giving me her opinion about things that don't really concern her, and things she has no idea of because she hasn't actually taken the time to research and really know in order to talk.  I, on the other hand, have done my research, I tried my very hardest to get into a school near my hometown, but didn't not get in for whatever reason.  I simply answered to her, "I know it's expensive, but to me it's an investment.  I applied to schools here, but I am on the wait list, and school starts mid-August.  I made this choice not because I want to move away and get tens of thousands of dollars in loans, but because this is what I want to do and I am tired of wasting my time doing things that I don't like, don't make enough money to stay, and simply don't want to do."  Very simple, and neutral.  We then proceeded to discuss how her son is moving to his new home near her house.

My point for both of these stories is this:  Keep you fucking opinions to yourself.  Nobody really cares what you think because chances are those with the loudest opinions are usually filled with hate.  From national news to your home, an opinion is just that, wasting your breath is not going to change anything except the opinion someone has of you.  Now Chik-fil-a's approval rating is at a 43%, from a 61%, and I will not mention anything about my life to this woman because in the end all this shit-talking doesn't really do much except piss people off.

I've never eaten at this Chik-fil-a place, and I don't plan on it.  Now they have given me even more reason to avoid it.  Because more than anything, I fucking hate haters.

Foul Language.

 
I use and will continue to use bad words in my blog.  I enjoy using foul language and this is my escape to speak my mind whichever way I see fit.

If you don't like it or think that I am trash, that's okay.  My recommendation to you is to find the "X" on the top right corner of your screen and use it.  Thank you.

Celibacy.

I took a vow of celibacy in February after I stopped seeing this guy that turned out to be a little ridiculous.  And to this day I have to say that I am not really missing sex.  Now, I have gotten plenty of offers for dating, I'm not going to lie, but I am really just disgusted by all men and I really don't want anything from them at the moment. This disgust I talk about is not being attracted to men because I find many men attractive at the moment, too many to count.  But when I think about their naked bodies on top of mine, the attraction just seems to disappear.  I seem to crawl into my own skin and try my hardest not to think about it.  Especially those fatties that are cute on the outside, but fluffy on the inside.  They don't excite me at all. 

I took a vow of celibacy from marriage when I was probably 10 years old.  At the same time that I decided to become a lawyer, I knew that I would be able to take care of myself and would not need a man to take care of me.  That vow was somewhat broken when I got engaged to the supposed "love of my life" but I never went through with the marriage.  I had three opportunities to get married and each time there was something wrong with the paperwork, so it never really got to that point.  I thank nature everyday that it never happened; I thank myself for never going through with it because I never want to get married. 

Celibacy can be described as the vow toward the state of abstinence and the vow of never getting married.  Marriage to me seems to antiquated, as I have said before, and I don't think it fits well in the 21st century.  But to take a vow of celibacy has meant that I am no longer interested in the opposite sex at all.  I don't need a man for anything and I am quite content with that predicament.  I have my family and my future to worry about.

 One day I may just want to have sex again, who knows.  But never will there be a time where I will be so devoted to a man that I would want to share my wealth with him. Furthermore, I think it has a lot to do with the way I feel about men in general.  Men today are so scared of any kind of commitment, it's completely unattractive.  I understand if boys want to fuck around and get their dicks taken care of by more than one person, but it is not appetizing to me to think that the guy I am seeing has had his dick in another girl's pussy just the night before. And the ones who are not playing their little games are complete total pussies that fall in love immediately.  Can we just have a medium?  Nope, that's asking for a little too much. 

So here's to all the boys that I have met.  Thank you for bringing me to this state of mind.  I don't miss you; I don't need you, and the sex wasn't that good.  But we did have lots of fun in the moment.  Until the next time, I will keep my legs closed and focus on what is important: family, money and success. 

I recommend you sluts do the same.

Pusha T.

I wasn't a big a fan of Pusha T. I heard him on a number of Kanye tracks (Runaway and So Appalled) and he just seemed to me like one of those commercial rappers that has no real skill.  But then I heard Exodus 23:1 and I was convinced otherwise.

I am fan of the gritty hip hop that is missing in mainstream music and is desperately missed by the fans.  I want the balls back in hip hop because all these little bitches running around talking about love, chains, cars, and bullshit just seems completely commercial and pathetic, in my opinion.  I miss the days of NWA, Westcoast hip hop, and Tupac, all who kept hip hop in the hood and showcased what really went down in their minds and in their culture.  You see I am from the hood.  I won't mention where, but I was fortunate enough to have parents that kept me away from the madness.  But I still like to represent where I come from and what my culture is like, so I take a bow to those that don't sugar coat their bullshit with sex.  This is real; this is hard. 

This song is supposed to be a diss to Drake (I hate Drake).  More power to you Pusha T.  There's a fool that's completely missing balls in his music.  In my opinion, Drake is just a factory created copy-cat of Kanye West that Lil' Wayne wants to shove down our throats because he can't come up with something original.  Same with Nicki Minaj (a little more original, but a hip hop version of Lady Gaga and Rihanna).  You see that is what's wrong with mainstream hip-hop.  I've even heard it.  They all try to copy the same rapper's music (Jay-Z) and become the president of a successful label.  Let's get some originality in this bitch already.  I'm tired of hearing some idiot talk about how he will take care of some girl.  Bitch, please. 

Children.

I don't know if I have made myself clear on the subject of children.  But if I haven't, then let's just get one thing straight.  I don't like children and they don't like me.  I have never been a fan of children and I must say I hated most of my youth, particularly teenage years because of the nonsense I had to put up with in order to become an adult.  My experiences with children can be summed up with a few just to show my distaste for children.

The first one came when I was about 8 years old. I was at a neighbor's party and this little girl would not stop staring at me.  Now this is a thing little kids do, which drives me crazy. I know it's curiosity, but let's face it, nobody likes to be stared at for too long.  Well this kid kept staring, so I gently nudge her in the head (I think she was 5) and her mother went crazy on me.  Well in the end I had to leave the party, but that little bitch never stared at me again. 

The second one was when I was in high school.  A bunch of kids decided to gang up on me for whatever reason and spread rumors about the shit I did with guys that I was dating ( all in the span of two years).  Obviously these children's lives were so mundane that they had to pick at mine.  So I almost got into a couple of fights, which I would have loved because I wanted to beat the shit out of this little Asian girls thinking she was the shit.  It never came to that and I even pushed her a few times.  I like to think she was afraid of me.  Kat, if you're reading this, I'll take you on any fucking day bitch.  But anyways, I graduated from high school and went on to college. 

The third one(s) were my years teaching children. I know; I'm a masochist with tendencies to seek the things that will hurt me the most.  But I enjoyed teaching.  the only problem was that I was teaching children.  And I have very little patience for children, so you can only imagine what kind of shit came out of my mouth.  I've called children stupid (because they are stupid sometimes and honesty can be the best policy).  I've gotten into arguments with children.  I've told them that if they don't act right, they'll be failures and losers for the rest of their lives.  I've threatened children.  And one time I was even accused of pulling an 8 year old's hair as a form of punishment (IT WAS NOT THE CASE, but the bitch lied). 

So what does that say about me?  I should not have children.  And I will never have children.  From a very young age, I would say between 8-10, I said that I would never have children.  I still feel that same way to day and I will continue to feel that same way because I don't want children.  They will not make my life complete.  They will not be a blessing to my life.  They will hinder my life and my capabilities.  They will drain all of the happiness because my life will no longer be as important as theirs.  I don't want to be responsible for anyone except myself.  I am that selfish, and I don't have the mom-gene.  Furthermore, my abilities to raise a kid will more than likely lead any kid to potentially become the next psychopathic killer.  I have no patience for children. 

I also take a look at the world today.  The divorce rate is at a 50%.  People are just not staying together anymore.  And I don't want to be a single mother.  Do you know how many guys stay away from single mothers?  They've made the mistake once; they will probably do it again.   And the chances that a father will leave a household nowadays is the same as betting red or black on a roulette table.  Not taking any chances with those shitty chances. 

Some of you may feel like I'm insane for saying those things.  I do not recommend you follow my lead unless you feel the same way. If for some strange reason you feel the need to have kids, then go for it.  I am not one to say, "Do this or do that!"  I don't really care of people's choices.  But this is my choice and I choose to live a single, adult, child-free life.

So I don't like children.  I am one of millions of people that do not like children.  I don't want to show them how to clean their asses, how to put a tampon on, and what masturbation is.  I am good with being alone, and children will not make my life complete.  I think I'll stick to animals for companionship, thank you very much!